Okay so the guy I'm seeing right now, we had sex last night for the first time I'm happy it happened but he's a little to gentle for me how do I talk to him about being more aggressive in bed without making him insecure?
I had a friend who had this exact problem…hehe…this advice worked for her so hopefully it will work for you! I told her to share a fantasy with him describing all the things she wanted to incorporate in bed and then right before their sexual play time I told her to ask him if he wanted to do a little role play going along with her fantasy. He was so turned on by her boldness and how hard she came during their session that he started adding some of the moves he did during the role play to there regular play time. Let me know if it works for you and good luck!!!:)OX P.S. In the long run it is always better to be honest and open with your partner…not speaking up can actually create insecurity if a man senses you are not being completely pleased and vice versa! You don’t want to get where you don’t enjoy sex because your needs are not being met. I see so many relationships that break up because they no longer find fulfillment in bed and most of the time it simply comes down to communication!!!:P